Single guys dating women with kids
You may come up against other sensitive subjects, as well; for instance, though you may offer with the best of intentions, understand that the mom may not want you to pay for her baby-sitter.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. But if you explicitly ask these details on the first or second date you will appear reluctant about dating a woman with kids. Even in the most bullet-proof of relationships, children may have an inherent dislike of anyone who is "seeing my Mommy." Certain ages are less well-equipped to deal with alternative parents than others.From around five or six years of age until well into the teens, the child can have a distinct, almost hard-wired disgust for an alternative to Daddy. If you are sincere, the natural love you and their mom have for each other will pay off with you earning the children's respect.But if a single mom invites you over for dinner — whether a romantic evening for two, or with her kids — she had to clean up a whole lot of Legos and finger paint and string cheese wrappers, and wrangles in an extra trip to the market and wine store to make it happen. It may appear effortless, but effortless actually takes more effort. “That’s great your mom lives in town so you can leave your kids with her on weekends.” 4.
Never assume facts about her life, because assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and problems down the line.