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It’s also “normal” when not receiving a genuine “sorry” to be incensed, fight for accountability, and / or try to force this person into being the person you thought you had signed up for (if a love-partner), or be the family member / parent they by normal humane standards. There is a period of CALM, then TENSION builds, then ABUSE happens, and then RECONCILIATION takes place …
However any attention at all, or the granting of any second, third and multiple chances is only handing the narcissist further narcissistic supply – the narcissistic drug: “The ability to affect another person and get their energy grants me significance.” Hoovering plays a HUGE role in the cycle of violence. then this is followed by a period of CALM and the cycle continues all over again.
She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program.
Additionally people have been astounded at how – even after the narcissist has moved on with a new partner – that they still make contact, and still try to affect and create reactions. Sit on my lap and talk about the first thing that pops up? Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert.Ultimately this is the best way to: a) stop feeding the narcissist, and allowing yourself to be a target to be hoovered, and b) be free of the obsession about whether or not any contact will occur, and c) not react in any shape or form if hoovering does happen.Naturally, the understandable human model before self-recovery is to hope (despite the repeated evidence) that this person has finally “got it” and will stop the atrocious behaviour.
They are not genuinely remorseful, and therefore not accountable or capable of real change.