Parent starts dating
Don't feel shy about drawing a line between the subjects you're willing to hear about and those you are not.Once your parent understands that you're not interested in locker room stories, though, it's time to get over your embarrassment and put his or her happiness first, says Yvonne Thomas, a psychologist based in Los Angeles who specializes in relationships.But that's precisely what I found myself doing last Christmas, when I was home for a visit.The worst part of it was, I couldn't even complain. In the first couple of years after my parents' divorce, I resisted the idea of their being with anyone but each other."Bear in mind," says Carole Brody Fleet, author of , "that the role reversal feels strange to your parent as well.
"At age 9, children are most concerned about getting the love, care, and attention that they need," notes Robin Goldstein, a Potomac, MD- based child-development specialist.
This kind of situation is more common today than ever before. We live longer and stay fitter until much later in life.
"Viagra alone has completely changed the landscape of sex for older men," says April Masini, author of you talk to a parent who's starting to date again?
"You have to accept them as living, breathing human beings who need love in their lives." In fact, she says, it's a good idea to say just that to your parent: . "Dad, you're a handsome, intelligent man, you're physically fit, you're basically world-famous in your field.
"The point is to give permission to your parent to start dating again," Thomas says. Any woman would be lucky to be with you." As hard as this was for me to say, I knew it gave him the nudge he needed, reminding him what a great guy he truly was.
There are some situations that are always awkward no matter how mature you are.