Lose my virginity dating
In 2014, the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported that less than 63 percent of women experience orgasms with familiar partners.
Women having sex (of any definition) with new partners are far less likely to have an orgasm; the American Sociological Review reported in 2012 that less than 40 percent of women surveyed said they had an orgasm with their last casual sexual partner.
Of course, these statistics are based on a heteronormative (and many would say misogynist) definition of virginity.
To solely define the loss of virginity in terms of whether you have penetrated someone’s vagina with your penis doesn’t leave much room for those who don’t want penetrative sex to describe or validate their experiences.
” While I struggled to recall literally any word that I had ever learned—or even a I offered. Holding out her hand to me, she said, “C’mon, funny guy. There’s something I want to show you.” Yada, yada, yada—and the next morning I was late to my oceanography class.
Though prior to that night I was, technically speaking, a virgin, I wasn’t exactly a sexual neophyte.
The disconnect between our experience and what our peers go through still disturbs people my age, a decade later, because many of us want to feel that our behaviors, particularly sexual, fall into the norm.
Jacques Derrida called this phenomenon — basing the entire world’s understanding of the human condition around the specific experiences of men — “phallogocentrism.”Though many organizations have tried in recent years to develop a more nuanced definition of virginity — one that makes room for sexual behaviors which don’t involve a penis — no one definition has really taken root in the zeitgeist.
It’s difficult to get people of varying genders to agree on a definition when there are even inconsistencies across generations: In 1999, the Kinsey Institute reported that only a slight majority of Americans over the age of 60 believed sex using a condom counted as sex.
So among Americans, when and how do most people lose their virginities?
The answer, as with most things sexual, is complicated.