Dating an ex again carbon dating chicken bone
What I mean by this is that if you take on a certain perspective, you are guaranteed to act needy.
And if you take on a different perspective, you will never act needy.
I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.
He told me he loves me, but felt like I was smothering him and he needed to find himself.
That feeling does not feel good, and the source of it is how you’re thinking about your situation, it’s your perspective. You could have 100,000 songs on your i Pod, but if you’re not playing any of the songs… In that same way, your relationship is exactly what it is in the moment that you’re with that person, experiencing that person and interacting with that person. you experience it in the moment you’re with the person.
The fact is, relationships are not “things” that you could lose or gain. Relationships happen in-the-moment, as they’re happening. So you can’t “get it back” because there’s no thing to get. It is only the quality of experience that matters and the quality of your experience is determined by your perspective and mood.
It’s believing that you could “lose something” or that something could happen that would create a “lack of something” in your life.
or else I won’t be happy,” then you set yourself up for tremendous unhappiness.
You see, that style of thinking is completely backwards and it will drive the guy away. Well, it’s simple: Men are attracted to women who are happy (not feeling like they are unhappy unless they “get” specifically what it is that they want).
In another sense, you already have a relationship with him… So, to answer your questions about what to do and if you can get him back… It is counter-intuitive, but when women fixate on a guy (and worse, a specific outcome with a guy), they are destroying their mood and ability to be attractive.
When you take on the perspective of, “I need this guy to be this specific way with me…
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