Dating an atheist girl
(It's also a great excuse to throw a fancy party with all the people you love.) He thinks pre-marital sex is unholy, and I don't think I can marry someone without having a trial run.
He has conversations with God every day, all day long (so he says), and I scroll through my Twitter feed and re-tweet tweets from "Shit Girls Say" and Mindy Kaling. He speaks better French than I do and lets me win at Scrabble.
I like to believe there's something out there, some mysterious universal power, but it's not anything I try to define or pretend to understand.
In fact, I embrace the enigma of it all and, as my best friend -- a self-described Buddhist -- likes to say, "all we know is that we just don't know." Can't we just embrace the mystery of life, simply be good and hope for the best? My Christian boyfriend jokingly calls me an imp -- and I call him a fruitcake.
But then, somehow, his Christianity will snake back into our relationship, resulting in heated, teary discussions about how we'd raise children.
He wants to take them to church every Sunday to "help them understand the love of God." I tell him I don't want our children to be brainwashed and if he takes them to church one Sunday, he has to take them to a mosque the next weekend, and then to a temple, etc.
Here's a sliver of the type of conversation we've had more than once:"Jesus used to say..." (boyfriend says) "Please don't quote Jesus.
Many of us have accepted that if we want to have a child with a partner -- while our clocks are ticking like the bells of Westminster Abbey -- we may have to compromise instead of waiting around for the elusive Mr. I really thought by now I'd be married to my childhood fantasy (Mr.-- to expose them to all the world's religions so they can decide for themselves what they believe in, if anything at all.Sometimes it just feels like we're on different plains of existence.He is communicative and sensitive (ladies, isn't this what we want? He would be a loving, patient father and says he will work hard for the rest of his life so that I can live like a princess.Some days, when we ignore the elephant in the room, I think, wow, this is it.
He's even admitted he hopes I'll "come around." I get so defensive and angry, I start throwing out obtuse generalizations like "religion has oppressed women for centuries!