Christian advice on teenage dating
No matter what answer you ultimately come down to, if you don't set boundaries with your partner, you will blow the relationship to pieces.
Whether you are utterly convinced that hand-holding and kissing are for the engagement/marriage stage or whether you think that anything short of intercourse is okay while dating, if you don't set boundaries you will zoom right past your intentions.
Whatever your boundaries are in the physical realm, it's something that you must set ahead of time.Each of us is wired by the Creator to crave and respond to a mysterious and exciting mix of emotional and physical intimacy.Furthermore, almost no one seeks out pain and heartache and yet people still manage to get ambushed all the time. But literally millions of people have witnessed or experienced the emotional and (sometimes) physical damage that sex outside of the realm of marriage creates.You cannot decide, "Well, I'm not going to have sex." once you're already caught up in a passionate moment.Before you get into a physical situation with someone you're dating, you have to decide where you draw the line. Because otherwise the Brain Relocation Phenomenon will kick in. It's what happens when you're in a romantic situation with someone of the opposite sex.
Is there such a thing as going too far physically with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Some say kissing before engagement is going too far. Some believers agree that intercourse before marriage is wrong but everything else--including oral sex-- is okay as long as you don't actually "do the deed." Still other people say, "The Bible is reliable and true on a lot of issues, but on the issue of sex it is outdated.