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(There's something about a onesie I have no use for that is especially tender).
Or when people assume I never wanted kids because I don't have any. Or worse, presume I am happier for being childless or more fortunate for not having to 'worry about kids.' Some have even come to call me "childfree" -- a term coined by those who have chosen never to have children and have no desire to have children, simply because I've 'chosen' to wait for love.
A relationship that is healthy provides both people with an immense opportunity to evolve, learn and love. Maybe this ghastly generation of have it all harridans need to learn this lesson so the next generation can watch their misery and learn from that. but it cannot force men to like what you have become. @Truth Bomb Before you categorize women as dependent and independent please define what that means.
Also please explain how independent women have nothin to offer and what do dependent women offer? As a beautiful kind caring woman who's not picky down to earth I've been on hundreds of dates in my life only for men to mistreat me bc I'm beautiful and they're insecure.
The sadness I'd feel around my period was deeper than hormonal.
I was mourning the loss of one more chance at the family life I always dreamed of. Grief over not being able to have children is acceptable for couples going through biological infertility.
We're labeled "career women" as if we graduated college, burned our bras and got jobs to exhibit some sort of feminist muscle. 39 and remaining single was creating more anxiety than anything else in my life.
But like that kind of grief, with time, it's no longer constant or active. Thankfully, there's no biological time limit on that dream.
Grief over childlessness for a single woman in her thirties and forties is not as accepted.
Instead, it's assumed we just don't understand that our fertility has a limited lifespan and we are simply being reckless with chance.
This type of grief, grief that is not accepted or that is silent, is referred to as disenfranchised grief. Not having my own, I felt like the world, in one big swoop, was moving forward and I was being held back. Being an aunt was (and will probably always be) my greatest joy.
It's the grief you don't feel allowed to mourn, because your loss isn't clear or understood. But losses that others don't recognize can be as powerful as the kind that is socially acceptable. When you're over 35 and heartbroken over a breakup with the guy who you hoped would be 'the one' or haven't had a good date in a while or watch your close friends go on to their second or third pregnancy, it's hard. Starting my own business, becoming an author and fulfilling my professional potential have been extraordinarily rewarding. Becoming a mother at this point would be a very happy surprise. That hard-won peace of mind can be interrupted by an unexpected package from a PR agency sending me a newborn baby onesie for promotion.
The grief hit me in my mid-thirties without warning.