Anxiety while dating someone new
We don’t always know where our anxiety is coming from, so we have to take the time to dig and poke. With a rushing mind, it’s hard to hear the anxiety message and follow it back to its source. If you can learn to notice your thoughts without attaching to them—seeing them as cars passing by as you stand on the edge of a busy highway—you’ll become better at picking out what really matters in this moment. By learning about anxiety, spending time with it and finally holding in your hand, you can enjoy the next step: You can relax your grip, and let it fall away. You will have loved that part of yourself and it won’t need to get your attention with such a difficult message again. It can give you an easy-to-remember awareness that you’re up for this, whatever the next exciting challenge or painful event may be.
Be accountable, no matter how much “such and such/so and so did” to you. The third gift of anxiety is that it gets you to recognize your own power with, instead of power over, yourself and your life. Ariella Baston is an impassioned soul living in Montreal Canada who loves to write, design and compose music.
On the anniversary of a particularly painful breakup, where I convinced myself I had become less than a full person, I had my first panic attack.
As a result of the anxiety you may start sweating or become confused about things you would normally do without hesitation.
While working you appear to be “quiet” or even “weird” to other coworkers because do not actively engage in conversation with other coworkers.
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