26 year old guy dating
I think all guys would generally agree: we tend to be single-minded in what we’re doing and focus on meeting one objective at a time. 5) If I’m with another girl (note: If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous, I never cheat, but if not dating around is fair game.) In your situation, it sounds like this guy will try to make plans and then when it gets complicated, or it seems like it isn’t going to happen, he directs his attention elsewhere and doesn’t feel the need to text further (again it comes down to the concept of a man’s tendency to single-mindedly fixate on fulfilling an objective or reaching a goal).Anything outside of our focus at that moment is a distraction that we don’t want to “deal with”. Now you mentioned that you’ve expressed your frustration over his behavior and he hasn’t changed. ’) you might think you’re drawing a line in the sand, but he sees it as something else entirely: NEEDINESS. A few clarifying points: I know the term “neediness” gets thrown around a lot these days, so I want to be really specific in how I define it. It finds a way to telegraph itself no matter how much the person tries not to “act needy”.One of the most frequent things I notice is that the women fixate on the guy acting a certain way or doing something they want him to do (in this case, texting her back).In general, this is a very disempowering way to live life – you are essentially shackling your happiness to the actions of a guy (and at the moment, it doesn’t even seem like he’s doing a good job delivering on what you want him to do.) Something to consider is if it’s just a matter of your guy’s texting habits – take our “What’s His ‘Texting Style’ Mean?If he doesn’t change and you continue to feel frustrated by his behavior then remember that you can always drop him and move on.Nobody is forcing you to be in a relationship with this guy and if he’s not putting in the effort to communicate with you, you’re going to be far better off filling your time with other ways to be happy (versus what many women do…Any woman I’ve ever really cared for (and showed priority towards) didn’t settle for behavior that wasn’t what she wanted.She didn’t put up with behavior that didn’t work for her – namely, if I left her hanging, I could be sure she’d make other plans.
but realize that “not accepting” behavior doesn’t mean fighting the other person. Showing the guy that you’re not going to wait around for him if he disappears demonstrates a lot of good things about you: you have your own life, you have options and your world doesn’t revolve around him.At this point, rather than calling him out when he doesn’t respond, you would be far more effective if you make other plans when this happens.DON’T wait on him because people tend to fall into a routine with other people based on past behavior.All that this does is show him that he can treat you like an option while he makes other things a priority. This scenario tends to lead to a relationship downward spiral since the less he puts in effort, the more upset the woman tends to get…and as the woman gets more upset, she tends to act more desperate, more paranoid and more guarded.
If you’re always available to the guy, it’s only natural that he’ll expect you to be available whenever he feels like contacting you.